By Sarah Parlett
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April 5, 2021
The word “doula” is a Greek word that means “female servant”. Back in ancient times, a maidservant would assist a pregnant woman in labour by getting her whatever she needed to be comfortable. A doula is there to support you physically and mentally. She does not replace your OBGYN or Midwife. This is a common misconception. A doula is an amazing addition to your birth team. Your OBGYN or Midwife takes care of things from the waist down and your doula takes care of things from the waist up! I hired a birth doula team for both of my pregnancies/deliveries. I highly recommend you do too! My Doula Story: 2017 - Mason's Birth When I was pregnant with my first son, Blake and I were clueless on what to expect! We wanted some extra education and support. I was introduced to Lifetime of Love Doula and immediately connected with Carol Anne and Sarah! They are a dream team. Blake and I attended their breastfeeding 101 course and had a couple of private in-home pre-natal visits. We felt completely supported and empowered with the knowledge we were given going into the birth of our first baby, Mason. At 37 weeks pregnant, my water broke unexpectedly. Sarah was the on-call doula and helped me through the early hours of my labour over the phone. She assisted me while I worked through contractions. Sarah made her way to our home to assist me with labour there however, upon arrival, she advised we head to the hospital because it was progressing quickly. Sarah guided Blake and I through many intense moments in labour, especially when I felt like giving up. She offered various position suggestions as well as massage and breathing techniques. Sarah made me feel empowered the entire time. Although I did not end up having the birth I imagined, I am so happy with the way things turned out. Sarah’s presence played a huge role in me having an unmedicated birth. At 18 days old, Blake had to report to training camp in Berlin. I was a first time mom with a newborn baby solo-parenting. I opted for Carol Anne and Sarah’s post-partum package and this was a game changer! These ladies supported me like Mary Poppins would. They helped with everything from breastfeeding support, teaching me how to use my breast pump, making me lactation cookies and delicious crepes, and holding Mason so I could sleep or shower. The list truly goes on and on. I am forever grateful to have worked with these two incredible women. My birth and post-partum experience would’ve been very different without them. 2020 - Colton's Birth The moment I found out I was pregnant with Colton, I booked Carol Anne and Sarah to be my doulas for the birth. I was so excited to have them apart of my birth team again. Suddenly we found ourselves in the midst of a global pandemic. Everything was beginning to change quickly and so were my birth options. There were so many factors out of my control. These two amazing ladies kept me grounded throughout the entire process. Blake and I had our pre-natal meetings over Zoom. I was feeling nervous and unsure if he or my doulas were going to be able to attend the birth. Then my worst nightmare was confirmed – only ONE personal support person could join me in my birthing suite. I was a hormonal hot mess and went into panic mode. I seriously thought I wasn’t going to be able to get through labour without my birth coach there to assist Blake and I. After talking to my therapist, I realized that my doulas were in fact going to be there – it was just going to look different. It was going to be over the phone. Thank goodness for technology! I can't describe the amount of anxiety I was experiencing leading up to Colton's birth. I felt bad for first time mothers going through all of this chaos. I don't know what is worse – knowing differently (pre-covid) or not knowing any differently. I went into labour differently the second time around. My contractions started at 3:00 am and slowly got more intense. Carol Anne and Sarah were so incredible once again. Our form of communication was via text and phone calls over Viber. They took turns assisting me in labour through a tiny Apple earbud in my ear. My doulas were there whenever I needed them: talking me through contractions or making suggestions to labour in water or change positions. It's amazing how Carol Anne and Sarah made me feel so empowered throughout my birth even though it was over the phone. I am happy I had a faster and unmedicated birth with Colton. Unfortunately, post-partum support looked different this time with many restrictions in place. My doulas kept in touch with me through texting and scheduled phone calls. It was really nice to be supported after birth, especially since I dealt with post-partum depression after my first son. I am so fortunate we had Carol Anne and Sarah apart of our birth team a second time around. I felt like I knew what I was doing however, it's a totally different experience than the first time and that's the beauty of it. Every birth is different. After all of the stress and anxiety surrounding a covid birth, it turned out to be the most incredible bonding experience with my husband. 5 REASONS TO HIRE A DOULA: 1. Doulas make a difference. When working with a doula you’re more likely to have a spontaneous vaginal birth, have shorter labour, less likely to use epidurals or other pain medications (although they fully support this option), and are more likely to recount birth as a positive experience. 2. Doulas offer unconditional support. Your doula works for you not the hospital or birthing centre. They are focused on supporting you achieving your desired birth experience. You might need an advocate at some point in labour/delivery. 3. Doulas assist your partner in assisting you. They help your partner to provide the right kind of support at the right time even if it is just being quiet (or running to get me ice chips in my case, haha). 4. Doulas are your birth coach. They answer all of your questions, provide emotional support during labour and delivery, and make sure your wishes are respected and accommodated as much as possible. In labour your doula might use a variety of techniques such as massage, acupressure, guided breathing, and position suggestions. 5. Doulas offer incredible pre-natal and post-partum support. While you are pregnant, doulas are a wonderful source of information. You can ask questions, express fears or concerns, and create birth preferences. Being educated going into birth is key! After you give birth, most of your appointments are all about BABY. It is important to have a support team to help you with this major life transition. Postpartum doula care can vary. It can be helping with infant feeding/breastfeeding support, tips and tricks for calming down your newborn, light housework, making meals, providing evidence based information on anything newborn/postpartum, helping siblings adjust, and the list goes on! They help you with your physical or emotional recovery during the fourth trimester. I had a wonderful experience and highly recommend working with Carol Anne and Sarah . They truly shaped my entire labour, delivery, and post-partum experience and I am forever thankful. Have you ever worked with a doula? If so, what was your experience like? If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out and contact me. Love, Sarah